Conjuction Junction

CHICKS ROCK! is happy to have Kristina back as a guest blogger this week. Kristina Leonardi is the founder of The Women’s Mosaic. She is a career/life path consultant, speaker, seminar leader and expert in the areas of women, diversity and personal growth.

Synergy - the bonus that is achieved when things work together harmoniously. ~ Mark Twain

I find it curious that the words desperate and disparate sound so similar; and although their meanings are distinct and technically have nothing to do with each other, I think there is a correlation. A well-known strategy used by one group to influence power over another is to 'divide and conquer'; to keep people, things, countries, ideas, religions, and feelings separate and often opposed to one another. This way they’re unable to come together as a unified force and therefore have strength to accomplish their goals and objectives, which dis-empowers them. Regardless of whether the power desired or deserved outcome on either end is good or bad, it is a tactic that is extremely effective.

The most obvious place to observe this happening is in the military and political arenas, but there are more subtle ways that this truth can affect us in our everyday lives - within our families, at our jobs, in our neighborhoods, in the media and entertainment we consume, and often, within ourselves.

Lately I've noticed a lot of folks are feeling disjointed, fragmented and compartmentalized at best; discombobulated or defeated at worst. Everywhere we turn, there seems to be a sledgehammer creating wedges and a myriad distractions coming at us from all sides: us against them, head against heart, black vs. white, profit versus purpose, logic battling intuition, young vs. old; material values vs. spiritual ones, mental health vs. emotional health vs. physical health.

As the saying goes, we can't serve two masters - we must be unified in that which we revere and honor, integrate our disparate parts and connect to who we are, so that we can connect to others for the greater good. Because when we don't, we feel lost and alone, which when not addressed, can lead to feeling desperate. And that is never a good place to be - because decisions made from fear and desperation are never the best choices.

So if you're having a little trouble synthesizing your yin with your yang, make sure you take some quality time with yourself so you can live with yourself, and others, in perfect harmony.